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Colour | planning for a ceremony | setting the tone

Well, what interesting times we live in.  So many planned for events hanging in the balance, it takes courage to make a decision, so much easier if someone makes it for us.  I think that those of you who have opted to postpone until next year will find it easier than those who are playing the will we/won't we game.

This summer would have seen many weddings in outside venues - the weather has been perfect too grr! I have been busy walking my dog and the flowers are stunning which got me to thinking about colour.

Often a bride will say to me that she would like red as the principal colour in her design, the colour of love, a hot passionate, statement colour ... these two flowers are in my garden at the moment.  The strong crimson peony and the bright, orangey scarlet of the poppy.   They are so different and yet they are both red.

So when you are planning an event are you clear about what you really want?  The choices are as marked as the two flowers you see.

You might choose a church wedding or you might go down the secular route.  If you chose to be married in a civil ceremony would you go to the registry office and say your vows there, would you ask the registrar to visit you at a licenced venue, or maybe you would choose to marry your beloved in a place that is personal to you.

Your choice is as personal and individual as the colours you
see before you and making the right choice is key to memorable event that fits your view.


 Time is obviously weighing on my hands a little; because then I started thnking about the language of flowers and when I was a child there was a book in the shelf at my Grandparents' house - it was flowers in Shakespeare.  "I know a bank where the wild thyme grows ... " I don't remember the exact title and it was mislaid sometime ago.

I have used rosemary for rememberance, pansies to remember, speedwell for the traveller.  The Victorians had a whole language of intent tied up in their posies. 

We use flowers and colour to signify intention, mood, desire, sympathy.  Today we are using the rainbow to thank those who are on the front line in the fight against Covid19.

So my blog today is to remind you to enjoy looking about you, take joy from the simple things and plan your events carefully. 

We have time to savour and dream and whatever it is that you have in mind, there will be a colour, a flower, a place and a scent that will coalesce to make your ceremony a memorable one.
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  1. Jane the Booklady19 May 2020 at 13:03

    I love your use of flowers as story- tellers, not just a beautiful part of the ceremony.

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